18 May Tony Robbins – 7 factors you must master to live on your terms
Life can be distracting.
For example, one research found that most people glance at their smartphones around 100 times every day. I’d say that folks glance at their phones twice that often. They set up the digital world to distract your mind from your purposes.
From Social Media to cell phone addiction, there are several intrusions in our lives right now. Add the ongoing madness in the world into that blend, and you have a bewildering scene.
If you’re in that place where your future is collapsing around you, Tony Robbins shared 7 factors that, if grasped, can push you to gain command over your world.
Here they are:
#1: Master your body – Your energy signature is your biggest asset
“Without a healthy body, everything is out the door. You don’t want to be the richest man in the grave – that will do nothing for you. If you have energy, vitality, strength it will show up in every other aspect of your life,” –Tony Robbins, International Coach
Our world is becoming more demanding, and we often ignore our health due to the hustle and bustle of our everyday existence.
Granted, if you want to live your imaginations, then you must work hard. But it’s equally pivotal to make personal care a priority. You cannot discharge from a dry cistern; if you fall sick, your job will tumble.
Your energy signature will decide the condition of your existence and how much you can achieve. So, give yourself a good diet, relax, work out, and get tidy.
#2: Master your emotion – If your private voice is limiting, you’re assured of failure
“Emotions are everything, that’s why you have to master it. You can’t dabble. I mean, if you have a ton of money and everybody loves you, but your primary emotions are pissed-off and frustrated, then your LIFE is pissed-off and frustrated. It doesn’t matter if you have a billion dollars, or a million people loving you, your life is not great. Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure,” –Tony Robbins with a net worth of $500 million, according Inc
The Gap and The Gain is a theory promoted by a fellow called Dan Sullivan, creator of Strategic Coach. According to Sullivan, your future progress and growth are based on your awareness of the variation between the two processes in which you can measure yourself: against the ideal which sets you in “The Gap,” and against your beginning spot, which sets you in “The Gain;” using your achievements.
When you’re in The Gap, you appear as though you have achieved nothing. This is because although you might advance, the ideal remains far from you. The ideal is a moving target. As your life enlarges, it becomes removed, making you worse off than where you began if you measure against it. Because you’ve exerted time and effort in getting to your destination, if you don’t track your progress, you’ll think you’ve blown that time and effort and have slipped further behind.
On the flip, if you measure your progress against where you started, then you’re in The Gain. You’ll feel a sense of progress and fulfillment and motivated to continue to your next stage of growth.
Measuring yourself against your ideals breeds frustration. Hence, the next time you look at your life or situation, instead of looking for what’s missing, broken, or incomplete, be like former Stanford business professor and university president, Henry Eyring, and ask yourself, “how did I see God’s hand in my life today?”
#3: Master your relationships – Your most pains or juice of life will come from your relationships
“To master love and relationships, you need to master the skills of Selection and Connection. Selection is your ability to choose the right partner, and Connection is your ability to bond deeply with that person on all levels–physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Your ability to select the right partner and deeply connect with them will directly affect your ability to create a lasting, fulfilling relationship with deep love.” –Tony Robbins, author, public speaker, life coach, and philanthropist
The metric for a relationship that works, Tony says, is having things in common because what that gives you is the emotion of certainty that allows you to open up and connect.
Factually, people like people who are like themselves. So, you like this person and you have certainty about this person. And you have a connection with this person because you share similar interests or values.
What makes a relationship work is things in common. If you have certain values that are the core of who you are and somebody has the opposite, it’d be hard for you to sustain a quality relationship.
Therefore, make a list of everything you want from your relationship and everything you don’t want. There are lots of things you’d prefer not to have, but MUST NOT have – you have to know when to make that trade-off.
And you must constantly improve the amount of joy, passion, and nourishment within you and the person you’re in a relationship with.
Your goal in a relationship, above all else, is you want to make sure you make this person who’s in your life your Raving Fan.
#4: Master your career/business – an extraordinary life is a life on your terms
“Most business owners are dabblers; that’s why they don’t make it. In 10 years, only 4% of businesses survive, and that doesn’t mean they’re profitable. And it does not mean they’re enjoying themselves, or they’re getting anybody else to feel good either.” –Tony Robbins
The first part of having an extraordinary life, according to Tony Robbins, is mastering the skill of the science of achievement. Which is the ability to take what you envisioned and make it real; faster, quicker, better, easier. There’s a science to making money. Regardless of age, color, or gender, if you do certain things, you’ll have money.
The second part is mastering the art of fulfillment. If you want an extraordinary life, you can’t be only an achiever; you must have fulfillment. Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. As great as it is to achieve, it’s more important to enjoy your life.
The decisions we make decide our lives. Live your life in a beautiful state and you’ll end ALL sufferings in your life, Tony says.
#5: Master your time – What are you going to do with your time?
“You can mistake movement for achievement. Instead of having a checklist and crossing all off, I want to squeeze out that time to WHAT MATTERS to create value for me, and for everyone I love.” –Tony Robbins, Life and Business Strategist
Tony Robbins has a 3-step time management tool. Step one, get your ideas down in writing. Capture and document every task that you must complete, along with each goal and the situations and ideas that demand your attention. Write it all down; you can weed things out and sort them later. Do this for your entire week.
Step two, look for common threads among your to-dos. Chunk the items based on unique areas of your life such as fitness, family, and money.
And finally, decide which tasks and actions are the most important within each chunk or category based on urgency and setting. The result should be a master plan with prioritized sub-categories that keeps all spheres of your life up to date and balanced.
#6: Master your money – It’s a portable power
“You need to learn how to master money so it’s not a question in your life; you can be, do, and give as much as you want, and you’re not stressed about it. You live in a place of abundance.” –Mr. Robbins.
According to Tony Robbins, 80% of wealth creation is psychology and 20% is mechanics. If you think you can’t master the money game, you’ll sabotage yourself. Those who are wealthy turn obstacles into opportunities and see every failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.
We often think of money as the ultimate power, but that’s a limiting belief. Money has no power on its own–only the power you give it. The ultimate power is your ability to focus and the state you put yourself in. Once you can achieve your peak state, you can adopt empowering beliefs such as “I deserve to make money” or “I will use the money I make to create a positive impact on the world.”
Though only 20% of the money game is mechanics, you still need the right tools to master this part of the equation.
You’re not a manager of your life’s circumstances–instead, you are the creator of your life. When you view life as happening for you instead of to you, you’ll realize that you are in control.
#7: Master your spirituality – Whatever you believe, you must live it!
“Ultimately, whatever you believe, spiritually, should lead to growing and giving. If you’re growing, you feel alive; if you’re giving, you feel 10X alive.” –Tony Robbins
It’s crucial to do everything you can to achieve all your goals. But there are many things over which you have no control. In the words of Robbins, even the fact that you were born in history, that you have a brain and heart that you didn’t earn, and that you get to enjoy the exceptional power of modern technologies like the Internet – none of this was within your control, nor did you create these gifts.
The more you acknowledge grace in your life, the more you seem to have it.
To live on your terms, you must know where you are and where you want to be–and these keys in the Pyramid of Mastery is an easy compass for navigating the maze.
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Tom-Chris Emewulu is the Founder & President of SFAN (Stars From All Nations). He is an education and policy enthusiast, entrepreneurship and career coach, ex-consultant at Mastercard Foundation, Seedstars Ambassador for Ghana, and the author of the forthcoming book: Breaking the Limits. Tom-Chris is a thought leader on topics such as youth development, African innovation, social entrepreneurship, and the future of work.